Tech-Free Tuesdays

Each year I take some time on New Years Day to savor the year that has passed and reflect upon what I want to create in the year ahead.  This year I started January 1st by taking a full day to do spa treatments and to “unplug” so I could do some serious reflecting without all the distractions.  I turned off the TV, my computer and my Smartphone to quiet the hum that they create, not necessarily audibly, but definitely with where my attention goes.

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It was a wonderful day.  I woke up and instead of grabbing my phone to see what the weather was like and to do Facebook for 20-30 minutes before my feet hit the floor, I put on my socks, turned on the heater and made myself a cup of tea.  I opened the door to see what the weather was like versus hitting my App repeatedly to predict the future temps and humidity.  Remember those days, when we looked to the sky to guess what the weather might be?

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Around midmorning I was Jonesing to check Facebook to see what was going on that I was “missing.”  Were people out there asking me questions wondering where I was, were recipes floating by in my feed not to be found again, did anyone “like” the last photo I posted?  This part actually became uncomfortable as my own realization hit home that I spend way more time on Facebook than I would ever like to admit.  A book became a new option originally to quiet and focus myself.  Later that book felt like a calm oasis as for the first time in many months I sat down and got absorbed in a good read.

I read.  I went for a walk.  I visited my sweet granddaughter. I cleaned my house.  I then took some time for a luxurious soak in the tub, a facial mask and a pedicure.  I enjoy pampering, and I always mean to do it more often, so this was a real treat.  I had time to plan out my meals, to enjoy the sensuality of cutting and chopping fresh veggies and to chew and enjoy each bite.

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In the evening once again I went from peace to a little pain as I longed to turn on the TV to watch some reality TV shows as my way to escape.  Alas, there was no escape in sight, as I really wanted to go for the whole unplugged experience.  So I did some journaling and read some old entries from a while back and gradually those “cravings” ceased.

The next morning I woke up feeling more refreshed than normal.  I noticed I was referencing my phone and computer less that before my digital detox.  Spending downtime for a day did me a world of good.  Even though it had its pain points, the good far exceeded them.  In fact I am now doing a digital detox one day a week most weeks. I call it “Tech-Free Tuesdays” to help friends and family remember I am unplugging that day.

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Some of the Benefits of a Digital Detox:

  • More Focused.   I think multitasking is way over rated as single tasks make me feel so much more grounded and a part of my experience.
  • More Productive.   Because I was more focused, I was more productive and felt more satisfied about the flow of my day.
  • More time.   I had more time to do the things that mattered to me.
  • More connected.  Today at lunch as I am laughing with my daughter and granddaughter, I looked over to see three women out enjoying a meal.  Their ages appeared to range from their mid-forties to mid-sixties and they all have their head down focusing on their phones.  I smile and wipe the avocado off of baby Ava’s lip as I am reminded to Look Up.
  • Cleaner home. My home is cleaner since my time and energy that usually dwindles away online was put to the task of spiffing up my own environment.   This added to my sense of peace and being grounded.
  • More reading.   I actually hadn’t read a book in quite some time, so this was a real plus.   I have now read about 12 books this year alone, which is probably a 400% increase over last year.   Remember all those books you’ve been meaning to read?
  • Better perspective.   I was able to take time to organize my day and my life.   I was in charge, not my Facebook feed.   (You can insert Twitter, Instagram, Email, or whatever is your favorite technology addiction here).
  • Deeper Relaxation.   It is not easy to describe, but I was able to decompress at a deeper level.   I felt less anxiety even though I usually am a pretty calm person. 

Myths of Social Media, Computers and Television:

  • I need to post so others know who I am and what I am up to. This has become such a big deal, they even have a phrase and acronym for it; FoMO (Fear of Missing Out).
  • I only check my phone or computer a few times a day.  Many people are checking their Smartphones every 6 minutes or up to 150 times a day.
  •  I am less alone Click on the link to see a 4 minute video on the effects of social media on our relationships and life.
  • My television helps me unwind.  We can unwind in so many more healthy ways.  Go for a walk.  Talk with a friend or loved one about our day.  Make a whole food meal.  Tidy up your home and get prepared for tomorrow. 

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Breakaway For A Day – Tips for your own Digital Detox:

  • Pick a day to Detox.  Decide if the weekend or a weekday is best.  Put it on your calendar and set a reminder for the day before.
  •  Notify your friends and family.  My family and close friends now know I take “Tech-Free Tuesdays.”  I post a message on Facebook and turn on my out of office on my computer so others know the plan.
  • Create a way to deal with emergencies.  I usually will accept calls just so I don’t worry that someone needed me and couldn’t reach me.
  • Reduce your need to react and respond!  Turn off alerts on your phone.  Put away your computer.  Unplug your TV.
  •  Decide what you want to do for your day.  Have other things to do such as go for a walk, journal, organize a closet, read through that stack of papers you’ve been putting off, get a massage, pull weeds or plant seeds, draw or doodle, take a nap, cook up a great new dish or get together with a friend or loved one.
  • Go for learning versus perfection.  When we aim for perfection we rarely have fun.  Keep it light by going for the learning.  Take a shorter period of time if a full day feels daunting to you.
  • Notice your response.  Take time to journal.  Notice any cravings and how you responded.  Notice how you feel that day and the next day.

I know Michael Pollan said we shouldn’t eat anything our great-grandmothers wouldn’t recognize as food.  I am starting to think we need to live a life more like our great-grandmothers did at least occasionally. A digital detox is one step in that direction.

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Reprinted from an abbreviated article in Swell Magazine.  Kathy is a registered nurse who retired at age 55 and is now exploring the adventures in life after work.  Her interests in health, photography, travel, being green and minimalism led her to create her blog The 3rd Chapter.  She is presently writing an eBook about Raw Cleansing as a Pathway to Health.

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Our Relationship with Money

One of the biggest hurdles we all have to overcome in this life is our relationship with money. My own encouragement would be to tackle it head on from wherever you are at, and preferably to do so before retirement. I will share my own journey and how money and me get along, just to help you have a reference for your relationship with money. None of this is about right and wrong, so I’d encourage you to leave that notion at the door. I also think money is a more touchy subject than sex, at least here in the United States.  And, because we don’t talk about it often enough, it can be controlling us, versus allowing us to be in the drivers seat.

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Some of the important parts of having a quality life

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What I Took On My 6 Day Trip

I was fortunate to have a fun 6 day trip to Seattle, San Francisco, Monterey and Santa Cruz a couple of weeks ago.  I just wanted to share what I took on the trip as I seek to travel as lightly as possible, while also having what I need.

Here’s what I took (with items I could have left behind crossed off):

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Clothes: Jeans, black skirt, fuchsia sweater, black jacket, 4 tops – 1 black long sleeve Flash Dry, 1 gray 3/4 sleeve, 1 blue tank and 1 black and white sleeveless. For sleep 1 pair of cotton shorts and 1 tank. Birkenstocks, socks and 1 extra pair of underwear.

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What Do You Get a Minimalist as a Gift?

A few weeks ago, as my birthday was approaching, my daughter Myra asked me…

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The quick answer is give them experiences, not things.  Most minimalist will be happy with this.  Of course, to ask the person is key, as minimalism is not a one size fits all way of being.

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Make Each Salad a Religious Experience!

Today as I was making my salad it hit me!  I should make each salad (or any dish really) a religious experience.  By that I mean, to be mindful, to notice the choices I have and put them together to create a tasty, nutritious and beautiful dish.  To have it be a salad that delights the eyes at first glance and pulls you in.  So here is today’s mandala salad for your enjoyment:

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Project 333 – Summer Edition

I took a month off between my first 3 months of Project 333 and June to just wear what I have and see what would work for my summer wardrobe.  For those who are new to this, Project 333 is where you take 33 items of clothing to wear for 3 months.  Underwear, socks and workout clothes don’t count.   I made my own exception for the 3 pieces of jewelry that I never take off.  The goal is to see how fewer choices make life easier and to experience what it is like to live with less.  We always think that more choice is a good thing, but there is a tipping point at which more can suck our energy too.

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My Summer 2014 Wardrobe

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Replacement Time?

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New Aveda 95% recyclable paddle brush to replace the old blue brush

I’ve been known to say “I take good care of my shit” and by that I mean you often wouldn’t know how long I’ve owned something like my car that’s 11 years old, my shoes that walked 1,000 miles or my hairbrush.  You see I got my blue brush back in the 90’s to replace the one I bought as I was pregnant and cutting my hair (like I said I never would do).  Well, my daughter is now 36, so that tells me two hair brushes lasted me 36 years.

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It Began With a Plate

You may not know this about me, but big potlucks are not my thing.  There is something about having so many foods at once and having each person take 1 spoonful that is just not appealing.  I think the nurse in me doesn’t like so many hands in the food.  And often I am tempted to overeat at such events and I leave feeling less than good.

Well, last November Northwest VEG had their annual Compassionate Thanksgiving.  This is a potluck attended by 350 people.  It is very popular and a nice way for vegans and vegetarians to come together and celebrate Thanksgiving about a week prior to the actual holiday.  As a new member of the Northwest VEG Board I wanted to go help with the event and meet some of our members, so I attended.

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The plate I brought to the potluck.

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Traveling Lightly

Last November I took a 10 day trip to San Diego and Mexico. It was my first big trip after I had walked 580 miles on the Camino that summer. The Camino taught me the beauty and simplicity of traveling lightly, so I set out to see how little I could get by with, while still having everything I needed.

We were going for a casual meditation retreat in Ensenada, Mexico, with temperatures ranging from 40-90 degrees Fahrenheit and I’d need to do some walking.  So how did I do with keeping it light, but not suffering to do so?

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This is me with all my stuff for the 10 day trip!

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Project 333 – Three Months In

On February 1, 2014, I began Project 333 as a way to simplify my closet and wardrobe.  The goal was to select 33 items to be the sole items worn for 3 full months.  Gym wear and under clothes don’t count in the 33 items.  It took me 3 days to select my 33 items, but I whittled it down to just 33.  At one month into it I reported out on my progress and now it has been 3 months and you’re probably wondering “how did I do?”

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Some additional outfits after the 1st month

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